I believe that the Jewish world – from the Orthodox to the secular – needs its own manosphere: a virtual community that emphasizes and strengthens Jewish male positive roles, prevents injustices against men by women and ensures better relations between the sexes. A community that would dispense red pill wisdom without the crassness and borderline pornography you see in the pick-up community. The Jewish equivalent of Dalrock, Haley’s Halo and the immortal grerp, if you will.
A recent blog post by a frum baal bayit may well be the start of such an online discussion. Like most starts, it is far from flawless. The essay about men’s problems in O Judaism is rambling and often incoherent. Still, the post does make the following important talking points:
1) The male baal bayit is a second class citizen in O Judaism. They are often considered less than talmidei chachamim. There are role models for talmidei chachamim, women, lay leaders – but none for baalei bayit. He can expect criticism and opprobrium from all corners but very little praise and exhaltation. The life of a baal bayit is often nothing more than lots of hard work and constant demands.
2) Shalom bayit classes often start from the assumption that women are wonderful and the men are layabouts. This is similar to the “man up” lectures in American churches of today.
3) The mass media coverage of sarvanut creates the impression that men are solely responsible for marriage problems and divorces. Yet frivolous divorce by O women is never discussed – even though it may be common (We don’t have any research on the subject to know for sure). And we haven’t even discussed the moral swamp of cuckoldry - regardless of how common it is.
I hope that discussion on these issues permeates the Jewish world. We should not let the desire to improve the woman’s lot in Judaism to result in leaving the men behind.